Fairy Dusted Blog
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Magical Lesson:
Here's a clip from the last class about why as an Advanced Bitch, we must work hard to not give into shame and negative self-talk.
The figure I'm holding up is an expertly rendered picture of the brain. It helps me to understand the...
Hello, hello, hello…good to see you!
Magical Lesson:
Many years ago, I was waiting for a 12-step recovery meeting to start and I was struggling with relapse. I was feeling defeated and wanted to “start again on Monday.” BTW - The addiction is never interested in you starting...
You may have noticed that I am not as active on social media as I used to be – especially on Instagram. I know some of you worry about me being sick or falling into the depths of despair, so I felt it was important to let you to know what tf is up. I didn’t want any of you...
It’s such a joke when anyone – especially a child is called "too sensitive." It’s a soul searing accusation. Using “too sensitive” as a slur is pretty ironic given that it is our sensitivity that makes us the empathetic and magical people that we...
I used to think of authenticity as one of my highest values, but now I know I got it all wrong. I thought I was being authentic and prided myself on it – maybe even felt a little superior about possessing the quality. This weekend I had two separate moments of wisdom, magic and...
I started reading a book about Jung and the first paragraph was a beautiful synchronicity to our previous discussions about how I don’t believe self-sabotage is a thing, so obviously, I had to share it with you. It’s from Encounters with the Soul: Active Imagination as...
A lot of buttons were pushed when I taught in the CPTSD class about willpower and motivation that self-sabotage is not a thing. For me, having CPTSD and making no move toward a goal and calling it self-sabotage is like having the flu and calling being unable to get out of bed...
I’m missing my therapist after having one odd experience and one meh experience with two different therapists. So, I sought the comfort of a book of my Dumbledore’s wisdom and I thought I would share a few lessons from the Head Witch herself.
*You’re working on keeping a...
Advanced Bitches Tenet #4 is “Advanced Bitches learn to wield their trauma responses like lightsabers.” This means that Advanced Personal Growth Work requires me to, on some level, understand and befriend my trauma responses. Then, instead of having them control me, I use...
Advanced Bitchifesto tenet number 3 is Advanced Bitches master the art of recognizing and declining the engagement of their Internalized Trauma Voice. I use the term Internalized Trauma Voice interchangeably with “inner saboteur” and Freud’s concept of the super ego. ...
Number two on the Advanced Bitchifesto is Advanced Bitches do whatever it takes to heal their childhood trauma. Now that we have set aside or are working on setting aside our substances, codependency and dysfunctional patterns (Advanced Bitchifesto No. 1), we find that it’s not so...
(Trigger Warning – ED)
Advanced Bitchifesto No. 1: Advanced Bitches go to any lengths to recover from addiction, codependency and dysfunctional patterns.
The reason the first thing we must do to become our true selves is we have to put down our substance. This is absolutely...
