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A Tool to Explore Self-Sabotage addiction bitchescomplex consciouslyptsd ptsdconsciousliving recoveryadvanced Apr 12, 2022

I started reading a book about Jung and the first paragraph was a beautiful synchronicity to our previous discussions about how I don’t believe self-sabotage is a thing, so obviously, I had to share it with you.  It’s from Encounters with the Soul:  Active Imagination as...

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Self-Sabotage and The Psychological Immune System addiction advanced bitches complex ptsd conscious living consciously ptsd recovery Mar 23, 2022

A lot of buttons were pushed when I taught in the CPTSD class about willpower and motivation that self-sabotage is not a thing.  For me, having CPTSD and making no move toward a goal and calling it self-sabotage is like having the flu and calling being unable to get out of bed...

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Advanced Lessons for a Conscious Life addiction recovery advanced bitches complex ptsd conscious living consciously ptsd Feb 23, 2022

I’m missing my therapist after having one odd experience and one meh experience with two different therapists.  So, I sought the comfort of a book of my Dumbledore’s wisdom and I thought I would share a few lessons from the Head Witch herself.

*You’re working on keeping a...

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Begin to See Your Trauma Responses as Advantages complex ptsd fawn response fight response flight response freeze response pete walker ptsd Feb 16, 2022

Advanced Bitches Tenet #4 is “Advanced Bitches learn to wield their trauma responses like lightsabers.”  This means that Advanced Personal Growth Work requires me to, on some level, understand and befriend my trauma responses.  Then, instead of having them control me, I use...

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Make A Truce with Your Inner Saboteur complex ptsd freud ptsd superego trauma Feb 09, 2022

Advanced Bitchifesto tenet number 3 is Advanced Bitches master the art of recognizing and declining the engagement of their Internalized Trauma Voice.  I use the term Internalized Trauma Voice interchangeably with “inner saboteur” and Freud’s concept of the super ego. ...

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Two Easy, but Important Tools for Healing Childhood Trauma childhood trauma complex ptsd trauma responses Feb 02, 2022

Number two on the Advanced Bitchifesto is Advanced Bitches do whatever it takes to heal their childhood trauma.  Now that we have set aside or are working on setting aside our substances, codependency and dysfunctional patterns (Advanced Bitchifesto No. 1), we find that it’s not so...

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Putting Down the Cursed Treasure addiction codependentcomplex ptsd recoverycodependency Jan 26, 2022

(Trigger Warning – ED)

Advanced Bitchifesto No. 1:   Advanced Bitches go to any lengths to recover from addiction, codependency and dysfunctional patterns.

The reason the first thing we must do to become our true selves is we have to put down our substance.  This is absolutely...

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Enabling Makes Something Toxic Possible codependencycodependentcomplex ptsdenablingptsd Jan 19, 2022

Last lesson I told you about how when a fawn saves the day, she calls the dementors meaning that when you rescue or enable someone, it comes with the price of you getting in trouble from the person you’re helping and/or it will end up being a complete disaster.  The story was a friend...

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Fawning Always Leads to Victimhood codependencycodependentcomplex ptsddrama triangleenablingptsd Jan 12, 2022

I remember the therapy session in which I was flummoxed at how could me going above and beyond to help a close friend recover from surgery go so terribly, terribly wrong.  I cleared my schedule (my joke was “I’ll check with my boss to see if I can take a week off” -...

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